‘It’s just a stage he is going through” advised the well-meaning friend to the parent.
I have recently had the good fortune to listen to Greg Hywood, Managing Director & CEO, Fairfax and Carolyn Stenhouse, Managing Director, Stenhouse Consulting talk about leadership. They talked about fear, emotional intelligence and the need to continually develop your character – how outrageous!
When you peel back the layers of the chest beating, tantrum throwing, ego driven adult what you find is a big lump of gooey fear. Typically, “fear that I will lose something I have” and “fear that I will fail to get something I want”.
Leadership requires a range of attributes and “by example” is key. Tone is set from the top and if a leader has little or no idea what he or she is really like, nothing or very little will improve – self-justification and self-righteous indignation are the primary behavioural characteristics.
Wouldn’t it be grand if we could build personal development, personal relationships, communication, culture and leadership into the heart of every school curriculum with the aim of making character development a life-long pursuit. Thoughts?
Disclaimer: I am 56 years old and still trying to grow up!